You know you've had that feeling before. You get uncomfortable...you start to feel a bead of sweat run down the back of your neck...you can't do anything but smile/frown at the same time. This is the very instant you tell someone that you enjoy anime, and you can clearly see that they think less of you the moment you finish your sentence. Anime is only for perverts!
Girls wearing next to nothing, upskirt shots galore and tons of tentacles going into places that tentacles should never go. This is what automatically appears in a few minds when you discuss anime. Just like people that think animation is for kids, there are those that believe anime is nothing but the animated porn for those with perverse tastes.
Thankfully, I'm talking to a crowd that knows this simply isn't true. There are all sorts of anime features out there, and many of them don't even touch on sexuality in the least. With that said, there are indeed features that get a little risque with their content. Most of the time we see features with a healthy amount of fan service. A gratuitous panties shot here, a low-cut shirt there. What people don't realize is that this can be a very small part of a much bigger feature.
Yes, there are anime releases out there that do nothing but cater to panchira fans, but that's a subset of anime itself. Lumping that kind of content into all anime just makes no sense. Anime may be a bit more progressive (or juvenile depending on your view) when it comes to sexuality, and it's just not something that worldwide audiences are used to. Some of it is classy, some of it is for the fans and some is way over the top.
You like what you like and that's all there is to it. To say that the average anime fan is a pervert or sexual deviant is pure garbage. It's time to stick up for ourselves and anime as well! Anime has been around far too long to still have this negative connotation attached to its fans.